One of the best ways to improve your relationships is to develop the habit of drawing attention to EGGs.
Not the ones you cook or search for at Easter, but the innumerable Evidences of God’s Grace that he lavishes on you and those around you … and calls you to recount to others. As David wrote:
“I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds” (Ps. 9:1).
“Oh give thanks to the Lord; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples!” (Ps. 105:1).
Evidences of God’s grace—of his wonderful deeds, both large and small—are everywhere, if you’ll just open your eyes to see them.
The greatest evidence of God’s grace, of course, is our salvation in Christ. As C.H. Spurgeon put it,
“The joy of the saints in heaven is comprised of this: Jesus chose us, loved us, bought us, cleansed us, robed us, kept us, glorified us: we are here entirely through the Lord Jesus.”
But God’s grace flows into your life in countless other ways. Your health, senses, family, friends, talents and material possessions are all evidences of his grace.
When you or others are kind, patient, thoughtful, generous or forgiving, it’s because of God’s grace (Phil. 2:13). Whether it’s something as simple as letting someone go first at an intersection or something as amazing as forgiving a great wrong, it only occurs because God’s grace is flowing, for none of these things would happen in a fallen world apart from his grace.
God’s grace also fuels meaningful labor. Every new insight, creative idea, diligent effort and successful project is another EGG. Even when people deny that there is a God, all of their gifts, talents and accomplishments come from him as a form of his common grace [1].
EGGs Transform Relationships
The Apostle Paul strongly encourages us to be on the lookout for EGGs, especially when our relationships are strained by disappointments or conflict. As he instructed the bickering church in Philippi,
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” (Phil. 4:8).
As this and many other verses teach us, EGGs are an essential element of relational wisdom, for they fuel God-awareness, self-awareness, and other-awareness [2].
Do you want a more vibrant relationship with God? Then develop the habit of constantly thanking him for the EGGs he showers into your life.
Do you want to have an accurate and confident understanding of your gifts, talents and purposes? Then dwell on the steady flow of EGGs that equip and empower you for loving and serving God.
Do you want to have closer, warmer and more productive relationships with the people around you—at home, at church and at work? Then speak often about the EGGs you see in their lives.
Practical Examples of Drawing Attention to EGGs
To God: “Thank you, Lord, for giving me another day. Thank you that I can see the sky and hear my children laughing; that I can walk and talk and enjoy my family and friends; that I have work to do, helpful skills, people to serve. But most of all, thank you that you have forgiven me all my sins through Jesus and adopted me as your dearly loved child.”
To your wife: “God has given you such a kind and gentle spirit. I am so blessed to be your husband. Every day you get up and devote yourself to our family, anticipating our needs, sacrificing your interests for ours and pouring wisdom and grace into our lives. There are a lot of fine women out there, but you surpass them all!”
To your husband: “Thank you for how hard you work to provide for our family. You head to your job with a positive attitude every day, even when things aren’t going well. God has given you such a creative mind; I’ve never seen a problem you couldn’t solve, either at work or at home. But mostly I love the way you are constantly seeking after God and teaching us to do the same.”
To your teen: “You’ve grown so much in the last year. You’ve become more disciplined with your school work, your job and your money. But most of all I love to see what a thoughtful and caring person you’ve become, not only toward your siblings and friends, but also toward kids at school who are often left out. I look at you and I see Jesus shining through.”
To a friend: “Your loyalty and support over the last year has meant the world to me. I’ve felt like a total failure at times, but your constant encouragement has kept me going and restored my confidence that God is not done with me yet. Thank you for being a channel of his grace into my life.”
To your co-worker: “I really enjoy working with you. You are always upbeat, creative and open to new ideas. When you say you’ll do something, you always follow through. And I’ll never forget that weekend you came in to help me meet a deadline. You’ve set an example for all of us to follow.”
You can draw attention to similar EGGs with a bank teller who accurately handles your transaction, a mechanic who skillfully fixes your car or a barista who smiles as she hands you a steaming latte. Just open your eyes and you’ll see evidences of God’s grace everywhere.
If you make it a habit to draw attention to the EGGs in other people’s lives — to focus on the God-given good in them rather than their flaws or failures — you’ll be surprised to find how glad people will be to see you coming, how much they will enjoy working with you, and how often you’ll have a chance to tell them where all those EGGs are coming from.
You can delight in EGGs even when you go through difficult life struggles, even major health challenges (see Round Four with Cancer … And It’s Still All About Relationship [3]).
A Word to Pastors and Other Leaders
Few things undermine the peace, unity and impact of a church, ministry, school or business as quickly as gossip, backbiting and critical attitudes (1 Cor. 12:20). These habits are also the cause of many forced leadership exits (see Strike the Shepherd [4]).
One of the best ways to squeeze these destructive habits out of your body is to replace them with an organization-wide habit of drawing attention to EGGs. And there is no better way to promote this habit than to model it yourself — in church announcements or sermons, staff meetings, organizational newsletters and personal conversations. As 1 Timothy 4:15 teaches, “Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress.”
Easter Is the Perfect Time to Delight in Eggs
Easter is a perfect time to model and promote the habit of delighting in EGGs, for it is our celebration of God’s greatest evidence of grace: salvation through the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. Here is a simple way that you can lead your family in celebrating EGGs at your dinner table this coming Sunday.
Download and print this PDF [5], cut it into six sections and place one image at each place setting at your table. Then invite each family member and guest to describe one or more recent EGGs in their lives.- If you would like to give your family and guests time to think and pray about what they will share, send them this text or email message before Sunday: “When we gather to celebrate Easter this Sunday, each of us will have the opportunity to practice One Simple Habit that Transforms Relationships [6].
- You can also purchase magnetic versions of this image [7] and give them to family and friends after Easter to place on their refrigerators to remind them to practice this habit on a daily basis.
May God grant you the most joyous, Christ-centered, God-exalting Easter celebration you’ve ever experienced this Sunday!
– Ken Sande
Reflection Questions
- How does drawing attention to EGGs honor God? (see Ps. 86:12)
- Read Psalm 9:1, Psalm 105:1, Luke 11:34, Ephesians 4:29 and Philippians 4:8-9. How do these passages support the concept of drawing attention to EGGs? What other Bible passages encourage us to see and celebrate evidences of God’s grace in our lives?
- Why would other people be happy to see you coming if you had a habit of drawing attention to EGGs in their lives? Why would they enjoy working with you? Why would you have more opportunities to talk to them about the source of the blessings in their lives?
- Make a list of several people you interact with regularly and list two or three EGGs in each person’s life. Share your insights this week and notice the response.
- Make a reminder on your computer or smart phone to draw attention to at least three EGGs in other people’s lives ever day. Ask God to keep working in you until it becomes a habit. You can also purchase an EGG magnetic reminder [7] to place on your refrigerator.
- Pray that God will keep working in you until you see EGGs everywhere!
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© 2025 Ken Sande
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