A Course That Will Change Your Life Discovering Relational Wisdom™

Develop relational skills that strengthen your family, deepen your friendships, improve your Christian witness and job performance and inspire others to follow your example. 

What Is Relational Wisdom?

Relational wisdom is an enhanced form of emotional intelligence that improves your ability to discern emotions, interests and abilities in yourself and others, to interpret this information in the light of God’s Word, and to use these insights to manage your responses and relationships successfully.

These powerful skills can improve every area of your life:

  • A closer and more joyful walk with God
  • Less conflict and more peace in your life
  • Deeper and more authentic relationships
  • Greater influence on those you love
  • Improved job performance and career advancement
  • A compelling witness for Christ
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You're Not Alone

Relationships Seem So Challenging When ...

You want to excel in your work and advance in your career, but you don't have a plan for improvement.

You'd like to show genuine empathy for others, but you don't know how to read emotions.

You want to control your anger, but harsh words just keep jumping out of your mouth.

You long for close, authentic friendships, but don't know how to build trust and transparency.

You'd love to have an intimate and fulfilling marriage, but seem stuck in shallow co-existence.

You want to witness for Christ, but your life does not consistently reflect his transforming power.

You want to be a patient and gentle parent, but by midday your frustrations are overflowing.

You would like to engage constructively in cultural conversations, but feel fearful and clumsy.

A Course That Changes Bad Habits Into Good Habits

Many of us come from families with poor relational skills, where feelings were stuffed inside or exploded in angry words, blaming was more common than accepting responsibility and conflicts ended with walls instead of understanding. 

But we don’t need to be stuck in the patterns of the past. It’s never too late to start doing what’s right. Being made in the image of God, we are designed to grow and improve … to develop the very character of Christ. 

Through this course, you can overcome years of bad examples and bad habits. You can change tendencies that weaken relationships and learn skills that create relational safety and promote empathy, understanding, marital intimacy and productive working relationships.  

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Course Participant Testimonials

"This training improved my ability to discern and manage the emotions that fuel lawsuits and made me more effective in helping clients restore relationships and arrive at mutually agreeable settlements."
Russ FaggRetired Judge & Mediator
“The course has deeply impacted both my family life and my professional life, helping me grow in humility, love and confidence and enabling me to become what I’ve always wanted to be: the kind of teacher I would love my own children to have.”
Yesenia GarciaSecond Grade Teacher
"Like many engineers, I often found myself unable to read and express emotions, but this training has proved that emotional and relational skills can improve dramatically with practice. My wife is thankful I took this training!"
Mike BotzChemical Engineer
"This training has not only made me a more compassionate physician but also strengthened my marriage and made me a better parent. I am committed to making sure my own two children learn these skills early in life."
Kris FrenchNeurologist
"This training made me a more compassionate and caring nurse, improved my ability to cope with stress and avoid burnout, and renewed my passion for serving others in the healthcare field."
Wendy DonaughNurse Practitioner
This training has made me a better manager by improving my ability to exercise empathy, discern other people’s emotions and agendas and get upstream of conflict."
Andy MetrokaVP of Corporate Operations
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Biblically Grounded Emotional Intelligence in a Life-Changing Course

This course integrates the neurology of emotional intelligence with the theology of God’s Word and summarizes these complex concepts with simple acrostics you can use to develop new relational habits in just 30 days!

This training is designed for individual, small group and organization-wide study and is available online and on DVD or flash drive as part of a group study set. 

How it Works

1 - Teaching Videos

Each of the eight lessons begins with a 25-35 minute teaching video that sets forth one of the key principles of relational wisdom. In the online course, these videos are divided into several short segments that include multiple-choice questions to test your understanding.

2 - Practical Application Questions

Each lesson includes 15-20 reflection and application questions that help you to think about ways that you can apply the key concepts in your life. These questions are also useful for triggering thoughtful conversations when studying the course with a group.

3 - Demonstration Videos

After the teaching section, each lesson then presents a realistic demonstration video that illustrates how other people have applied the key principle of the lesson in challenging life situations.

4 - Digging Deeper

At the end of each lesson, you will find optional articles that allow you to explore ways that relational wisdom can be applied in areas of personal interest, including friendship, marriage, parenting, church, workplace, politics and conflict resolution.

The Results You Can Expect

Get upstream of conflict with new relational skills

Learn how to take your thoughts, emotions, words and actions "captive to Christ"

Learn how to prevent impulsive words and behavior that damages your relationships

Learn how to read other people's body language, facial expressions and tone of voice

Set an example that opens the door for sharing the gospel

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Meet Your Instructor

Ken Sande is the founder of Peacemaker Ministries and RW360. Trained as an engineer, lawyer and mediator, Ken has conciliated hundreds of family, business, church and legal conflicts. He is the author of numerous articles and books, including The Peacemaker, which has sold over 500,000 copies in over twenty languages.

Ken teaches internationally on biblical peacemaking, Christian conciliation and relational wisdom, which is an enhanced form of emotional intelligence that helps people “get upstream of conflict” by improving their ability to read and manage emotions in themselves and others. 

These concepts are being used by churches across the denominational spectrum and have been taught in the Pentagon, on Capitol Hill and the Montana State Legislature and are being used to resolve lawsuits, strengthen relationships, restore marriages, stop abuse, improve job performance and career advancement, and resolve conflict in families, businesses, churches, schools, prisons and military bases in over 60 countries.

Ken has been certified as a Professional Engineer and currently serves as a Certified Emotional Intelligence Instructor with TalentSmartEQ and as a Certified RW Instructor, Coach and Conciliator with RW360. He has served as a church elder, an Editorial Advisor for Christianity Today, a Certified Professional Engineer and as a member of the Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee of the Montana Bar Association.

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Eight Life-Changing Lessons

Improving your relational skills will not only strengthen your friendships and family life but also increase your job satisfaction, earning capacity and ability to influence others with your example. 

Emotions influence most of what goes on in this world. Whether it’s the romantic attraction that draws a couple together, the sacrificial love of a parent for a child, the desire to build a successful ministry or business, the bitterness that corrodes a friendship or the anger that fragments a family or church—emotions play a powerful role in every aspect of life.

Learn the incredible power of being “three-dimensional” in your relationships, always seeking to please and honor God and to read and manage you own emotions, abilities and interests, as well as the emotions, abilities and interests of others. 

As you study dozens of Bible passages throughout this course, you will learn how the gospel can transform your character and relational skills, enabling you to imitate Jesus’ compassion, discernment, courage, mercy and forgiveness, so you can treat others just as he has treated you.

The next four lessons of this course teach four simple acrostics that help you to turn new relational skills into habits, new habits into stronger character and stronger character into a way of life that honors God and builds life-long relationships. The first acrostic is the SOG Plan. 

The quality and stability of your relationships will depend on the guidance system you choose to live by. The GPS (God Positioning System) acrostic is designed to help you become God-aware and God-engaging in every situation. 

Just as good sailors learn how to read and use the power of the wind, wise Christians learn how to anticipate and harness the power of their emotions. You can develop this skill by practicing the READ acrostic. 

God designed all of us to love him and to love those around us. Among other things, this means that he calls us to always be looking for opportunities to serve and encourage one another. You can begin to make this a habit by practicing the SERVE acrostic.

Frequently Asked Questions

You can begin your training with either of these foundational courses, both of which are prerequisites for our more advanced Shepherd, Instructor, Coach and Conciliator training. If you are currently or may soon be engaged in a significant conflict, it would be helpful to begin with our Relational Peacemaking Course. But if you are not in a current conflict, we recommend that you start with the Discovering Relational Wisdom course. 

Most people complete the online course in 8 to 10 hours, but people who take full advantage of the optional supplemental materials can spend 20 or more hours deepening their understanding and expanding their relational skills. 

Studies show that the greatest growth in relational skills comes by combining personal study with individual coaching. The next most effective way to promote growth is to study relational wisdom with a group of people, which helps to maintain momentum and deepen understanding through discussion of practical applications. 

There are several ways you can study this course, both individually and in a group, and in live meetings or online:

  1. 1. Individual Online Study: Simply register for the online course and complete each lesson at your own pace. There is no time limit on how quickly you need to complete the course. 
  2. 2. Interactive Online Group Study Cohort: If you want to accelerate your growth in relational wisdom, you can sign up for an interactive study cohort that meets weekly and is led by an Advanced RW Instructor who uses additional application exercises to deepen understanding of key relational wisdom concepts.
  3. 3. Interactive Online Group Study: Another way to maximize your growth is to study relational wisdom with your spouse and teens or with a group of friends or coworkers, which will help you to maintain momentum and deepen your understanding. The most popular way to do this is for each person to study one lesson a week on their own time and to then gather as a group in person or via zoom every one or two weeks to discuss what they are learning. 
  4. 4. Live Sunday School Class: Many churches use the Discovering Relational Wisdom Group Study Set for an 8-week Sunday school class. 
  5. 5. Live Small Group Study: You could change the lives of many other people by leading a group study in your home or over a lunch break at your office. The RW Group Study Set includes teaching videos, a leader’s guide and 10 study guides, so there is no need for advanced training in order to lead a study group. 
  6. 6. Live Seminar: Many churches and other organizations host a live 3-to-6-hour seminar taught by an Advanced RW Instructor to trigger interest in relational wisdom and then encourage their members to participate in a follow-up Sunday school class or small study group to dig into the concepts more deeply. This combination of training can change the relational culture of an entire church or organization.
  7. 7. Organization-Wide Training: Businesses, schools, hospitals, military bases, parachurch ministries and other organizations can use either the online course or the small group study set to provide professional development training to change the relational culture of their entire organization.

Our material is based on biblical principles that are fundamental to all Christian denominations. Moreover, the course requires students to read and evaluate for themselves hundreds of Scripture passages that support the key principles of our courses (see Biblical Foundation for RW, RW and Tri-Perspectivalism and Emotions in Christian Anthropology).

Ken Sande is a Certified Emotional Intelligence Instructor with TalentSmartEQ, the largest corporate EI trainer in the world. When developing RW360’s training resources, Ken drew on that organization’s data-based expertise, along with dozens of professional studies and books by other experts in this field, including Daniel Goleman’s best selling books on emotional intelligence. 

Yes. Our training has been approved for continuing ed credit for lawyers, nurses, teachers and other professionals. For more details, click here. 

Although this course is rigorous enough to be used by adults in churches, seminaries, businesses and missions, it is simple enough for parents and children to study together. It can also be used to enable high school students in a Christian school obtain a “Certificate in Enhanced Emotional Intelligence,” which will enhance their resumes as they seek scholarships and jobs after graduation.  

Comparable secular programs cost from $149 to $2,000. Thanks to our ministry donors, we are able to make our training available at a far lower price ($49) so that it is easily affordable to anyone who wants to improve their relational skills and their witness for Christ. Another reason that we set the price at $49 is because we sometimes give this course to public servants for free, and most government agencies restrict workers from receiving gifts valued over $50. 

Yes, scholarships are available for active or retired military, law enforcement, firefighters and similar first-responder personnel and their families, as well as for students and individuals with limited finances (click here for details).

You can find answers to many other FAQs here. If you need further information, please use this form. 

Don't Wait for a Relational Crisis

Few things in life are more painful than lost friendships, divorce, estranged children, church splits or being fired from a job.

A few hours of relational wisdom training can help you avoid these crises and equip you to build deep, lasting and enjoyable relationships in every area of your life. Don’t wait another day!

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