What Is Relational Wisdom?
Relational wisdom, in essence, is the desire and ability to obey Jesus’ timeless command, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart … and love your neighbor as yourself” (Matt. 22:37-39).
In modern terms, relational wisdom may be defined as your ability to discern emotions, interests and abilities in yourself and others, to interpret this information in the light of God’s Word, and to use these insights to manage your responses and relationships successfully.
Life Is All About Relationship!
Jesus’ Parable of the Talents reminds us that relationships are precious gifts that he entrusts to us as opportunities to show his love and multiply the number of people who will enjoy him forever (see Matt. 25:14-21).
Six Relational Disciplines
From Genesis to Revelation, Scripture teaches us how to be faithful to God, discipline ourselves and serve the people around us.
This teaching may be summarized as six relational skills or disciplines: God-awareness and God-engagement, self-awareness and self-engagement, and other-awareness and other-engagement.
If we neglect these disciplines, our lives are often characterized by aimlessness, shallow relationships and conflict. But when we cultivate these disciplines, we are more likely to enjoy deep friendships, intimate marriages, joyful parenting, fulfilling careers and, most importantly, a compelling witness for Christ.
Training materials are also available in a “values-based” form that is suitable for use in businesses, hospitals, schools, military bases and other secular settings.
Versatile Principles
Relational wisdom is an “operating system for life” that is being used in churches, ministries, businesses, schools and seminaries around the world.
“Peacemakers Are People Who Breathe Grace.
Inspired by the gospel, they draw continually on the goodness and power of Jesus Christ, and then they bring his love, mercy, forgiveness, strength and wisdom to the conflicts of daily life.”
From The Peacemaker
Meet Our Team
Ken Sande is the founder of Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360. Trained as an engineer, lawyer and mediator, Ken has conciliated hundreds of family, business, church and legal conflicts. He teaches globally and has written numerous resources on building relationships and resolving conflict, including The Peacemaker, which has sold over 500,000 copies in twenty languages.
Going Beyond Emotional Intelligence
Relational wisdom is a God-centered, biblically-grounded, gospel-driven form of emotional intelligence.
RW360 Blog
Practical, biblical insights for developing stronger relationships, valued influence and a compelling witness.
The Compassionate Boxer
Would you like to grow in relational wisdom? If so, please take a few minutes to watch a brief clip from the movie, Cinderella Man, which is packed with some of the best examples of relational wisdom I've ever seen. Russell Crowe plays the part of a real life hero...
The Three P’s of Satisfaction
It’s not often that an attorney loses a lawsuit, along with her two million dollar contingency fee, and yet walks away satisfied. I’ve seen similar satisfaction with employees who didn’t get a promotion. With church members who disagreed with their pastors. And with...
How to Lose an Airline Seat … and Win a Friend at the IRS
It’s never smart to offend someone who has discretionary authority over your life. Such as the ticket agent I watched as she juggled an overbooked flight. She was waiting for two couples who had confirmed seats but had not yet appeared at the gate. I was on standby...
Curse or Consecrate
Three months before graduating from law school, I decided I did not want to be a lawyer. Two years of interning for a plaintiff’s attorney had shown me that the adversarial system brought out my worst characteristics: pride, aggressiveness and a compulsive desire to...
Web Based Training
Study relational wisdom with your friends in an interactive, online group
A Flexible, Convenient and Interactive Way to Learn
Innovative, continuing-ed approved ways to build stronger relationships and “get upstream of conflict.
Study Anywhere
Study privately or with a group, using your computer, smartphone, tablet or a TV in your living room.
Dynamic Learning
Teaching and demo videos, Bible study, interactive discussions and online quizzes.
Set Your Own Pace
Work any time of the day or week at a pace that suits your schedule, with no pressure or deadlines.
Skills for Real Life
Practical exercises help you apply enhanced relational skills in your home, church and workplace.
Grow Together!
Improve the relational skills of your entire church, ministry, school or business
Host A Webinar, Seminar or Group Study
Our most popular live training formats are a 3-hour webinar and a 3-hour in-person seminar, both of which provide an introduction to the principles taught in our longer online course, Discovering Relational Wisdom 3.0.
This CEU-approved training includes interactive teaching, demonstration videos, small group discussions and practical applications, with each student receiving a full scholarship to the entire online course. Instructor training fees range from $750 to $4,900, depending upon the instructor and type of event. Per student costs range from $15 to $49.
This training is also available for group study via DVD, flash drive and web streaming for use in Sunday school and small groups. The eight lesson set includes teaching and demonstration videos, 10 study guides and summary pamphlets, and a Leader’s Guide.
Christian Conciliation Service
Resolving business, legal, family, church, ministry and school disputes
Do You Need Help with Conflict?
Our Certified RW Conciliators™ have been cross-trained in relational wisdom, biblical peacemaking and Christian conciliation. This combination of skills gives them the ability to provide biblically grounded conflict coaching, mediation and arbitration for marital, church, ministry, school, business and legal conflict.
A Promise Worth Pursuing
“Get wisdom, prize her highly, and she will exalt you” (Prov. 4:7-8).
Apply Relational Wisdom to Every Area of Life
Our teaching videos cover dozens of theological issues and practical life applications.
Gospel Driven Peacemaking
Resolving Everyday Conflict
Living At Peace
Start Setting an Example Today!
“Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress” (1 Tim. 4:15).
Action Steps
Three ways below to begin improving your relational skills today … starting with a free smartphone app with hundreds of articles, videos and FAQs on relational wisdom and biblical peacemaking.