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Give the Gift of Relationship

By |November 27th, 2016|

The holiday season often presents two challenging questions: First, “What meaningful gift can I give to the special people in my life this Christmas?” Second, “Is there a way that our family [business, ministry or church] can improve its ability [...]

Politics as Ministry

By |November 14th, 2016|

The 2016 elections are finally over … and now the healing must begin. At the national level, we’ve already heard conciliatory statements from President Obama, Secretary Clinton and President-Elect Trump. Let us pray that their gracious words are matched by [...]

One Relationship that Is Rarely Restored

By |November 6th, 2016|

I’ve seen hundreds of terribly damaged relationships restored over the years. Whether the break was caused by adultery, embezzlement, broken contracts, wrongful termination or even physical or sexual abuse, I’ve seen God bring about amazing reconciliations again and again. But [...]

Men Lay Down Emotional Cards One at a Time

By |October 23rd, 2016|

Don't miss the special webinar invitation at the end of this blog! I ran into Jim while standing in line at Starbucks. We’d known each other for years, so it was only natural to ask, “How are you today?” I [...]

I Was an Embarrassment to My Friends

By |October 9th, 2016|

C.S. Lewis and I have something in common: there was a time when each of us became an embarrassment to our friends. Lewis endured this uncomfortable experience after his wife, Joy, died. Here is what he wrote in A Grief [...]

Reconciled by a Baby Moose

By |October 3rd, 2016|

After two fruitless mediation sessions, Dave and Don were still miles apart and more bitter than ever. Best friends since high school, Don had hired Dave to manage his construction crews. Working long hours together, they built a highly successful [...]

100 Scholarships & 30 Custom Courses

By |September 25th, 2016|

I need your help giving away 100 full scholarships to our new online course. I would also appreciate your input as we develop 30 new Life Application Modules. Here’s the deal … 100 Full Scholarships If you know a church or ministry leader who is [...]

Gotta Love (and Help) Millennials

By |September 19th, 2016|

One of the catchiest videos I’ve ever seen is entitled, “Gotta Love Millennials.” Sung to the old Beatles tune, Obladi-Oblada, its opening stanza provides a humorous picture of a stereotypical Millennial: There he sits inside your local coffee shop Sporting [...]

How to Lose an Airline Seat … and Win a Friend at the IRS

By |September 11th, 2016|

It’s never smart to offend someone who has discretionary authority over your life. Such as the ticket agent I watched as she juggled an overbooked flight. She was waiting for two couples who had confirmed seats but had not yet [...]

31 Marks of a Relational Leader

By |September 5th, 2016|

Last May I had the privilege of delivering a plenary address to 700 Christian leaders from throughout Europe. The video of this address was just released on the web by the Forum of Christian Leaders, along with an outline detailing [...]

Anything That Humbles Me Is Good for Me

By |August 21st, 2016|

Last week I had the privilege of hiking in the Montana wilderness with Rankin Wilbourne, a dear friend and pastor from southern California. As we shared about the challenges, blessings and setbacks we’ve both experienced in our personal lives and ministries, [...]

Three Ways to Multiply Kindness

By |August 14th, 2016|

This true story from an airline pilot about a fallen soldier’s journey home illustrates a fundamental fact about human nature: since we are all made in the image of God, we are designed to be kind to one another. Here [...]

Public Confession Is Counterintuitive

By |August 7th, 2016|

Whenever we’ve done something wrong, our natural instinct is to conceal, deny or minimize our guilt. This dynamic began with Adam and Eve and is painfully evident in the current race for the White House. Sadly, it is also displayed [...]

A Biker with Amazing Relational Skills

By |July 31st, 2016|

Mom’s Night Out (not to be confused with Bad Moms) provides some superb examples of relational wisdom … especially by a big, tattooed biker. The movie involves three mothers who decide they need a night away from their kids. In [...]

A New Generation of RW Training

By |July 18th, 2016|

By God’s grace, a new generation of training in relational wisdom launched this morning. This interactive online course addresses the theology, benefits, and practical applications of relational wisdom. Using a cutting-edge learning management system, it is available for individual or [...]

Six Days to Launch

By |July 11th, 2016|

With just six days to go before we launch our new online course, Discovering Relational Wisdom 2.0, God gave us a special gift this week. Feedback from two people who have been using our beta version confirmed that we’ve succeeded [...]

Pastors’ Wives Can Burn Out Too

By |June 19th, 2016|

I received a lot of positive feedback on last week's post about a pastor who admitted his need for physical rest, spiritual renewal and relational retooling. One of the most insightful responses came from a different pastor's wife, who described how [...]

Do You Know a Bruised Reed?

By |June 12th, 2016|

It takes a great deal of humility, wisdom and courage for a popular pastor to admit that he is a “bruised reed” in desperate need of physical rest, spiritual renewal and relational retooling. That’s exactly what my friend Rankin Wilbourne [...]

The Wounds of a Friend

By |June 5th, 2016|

Most of us are blind to our own poor relational skills. As a result, we often fail to see how our behavior impacts the people around us and undermines our witness for Christ. One of the best ways to counteract [...]

Wisdom Can Prevent Fraud

By |May 30th, 2016|

One of the many interesting groups I engaged during the recent European Leadership Forum was the Leaders of Christian Organizations Network. This network is comprised of executive leaders from many of the most respected Christian organizations in Europe. Prior to [...]

Bringing RW to the Church in Europe

By |May 22nd, 2016|

Corlette and I are having an exciting time in Poland interacting with 720 church and ministry leaders from 45 European countries. They’ve gathered together for the European Leadership Forum (ELF) for a week of training, fellowship and planning on how to [...]

Headed to Europe

By |May 15th, 2016|

Lord willing, Corlette and I will be flying to Wisla, Poland, this week to participate for a second time in the European Leadership Form. This conference gathers 700 evangelical leaders from around Europe to provide fellowship, encouragement and training to inspire and [...]

The Three P’s of Satisfaction

By |May 10th, 2016|

It’s not often that an attorney loses a lawsuit, along with her two million dollar contingency fee, and yet walks away satisfied. I’ve seen similar satisfaction with employees who didn’t get a promotion. With church members who disagreed with their [...]

Gospel Centered Relationships

By |April 24th, 2016|

Corlette and I spent the last four days in Seattle teaching relational wisdom and peacemaking at Highlands Community Church. One of the high points of the weekend was delivering a sermon on Gospel Centered Relationships. This is one of my [...]

CCEF: Emotions-Engaging the Expressions of Our Hearts

By |April 17th, 2016|

This October I will have the privilege of presenting a Discovering Relational Wisdom Seminar at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundations’ 2016 National Conference. The theme of the event is “Emotions: Engaging the Expressions of Our Heart.” I have the [...]

Reputation vs Character

By |April 10th, 2016|

Jeff’s reputation was being trashed by people in his own church. He was respected throughout the city for his outstanding Sunday school classes, which had drawn hundreds of people to his church. But then he got caught in the middle [...]

Blind Optimism Can Be Dangerous

By |April 3rd, 2016|

Churches and ministries (as well as married couples) could learn a vital lesson from the U.S. State Department. Chip Zimmer, our ministry’s Vice President, worked for the State Department from 1990-2001, serving in diplomatic posts in Africa and Latin America. [...]

Gracious Eyes

By |March 27th, 2016|

Years ago I completed a particularly sad divorce mediation. The husband had tried for years to meet his wife’s expectations, but she was adept at finding fault with everything he did. Shortly after our final meeting, I read an article [...]

Good Cop, Great Cop

By |March 20th, 2016|

Deputy Matt Holman saved the life of a homeless man staggering toward destruction. His name was Robert Morris. He’d lost his family, become an addict, and was living in a tent in the woods … until it was washed away [...]

Three Pennies a Week

By |March 13th, 2016|

Every relationship has a limited amount of social capital. Among other things, this means that you need to exercise wisdom in how often you initiate uncomfortable conversations with those around you, whether in your family, church or workplace. Think of [...]