“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude.”
So wrote Viktor Frankl, an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust, living through the deprivation and horrors of both Auschwitz and Dachau.
Consider the background for his writing about freedom.
His wife, parents and brother were killed by the Nazis. His captors imprisoned him with barbed wire. They assigned him his lice-infected bed. They gave him one set of striped prison clothes. They allowed him no menu options, just a crust of bread and watered-down soup.
They told him when to wake up, when to work and when to sleep. They controlled all his relationships and restricted his speech, severely punishing the slightest disrespect or opposition.
They took away every freedom a person can have … except for one. They could not force their way into his mind and take away his freedom to choose his attitude toward his circumstances and his life. That was his and his alone to control.
You Alone Can Choose Your Attitude
The same is true for you and me, especially with the much smaller struggles we face.
Your difficult spouse cannot control your attitude. But you can.
Your rebellious teen cannot control your attitude. But you can.
Your disappointing church leaders cannot control your attitude. But you can.
Your ungrateful supervisor cannot control your attitude. But you can.
The politicians you oppose cannot control your attitude. But you can.
You and you alone will choose whether you will be hopeful or despairing today. Thankful or grumbling. Cheerful or miserable. Patient or irritable. Encouraging or critical. Kind or harsh. The list of choices goes on and on.
Yes, it’s hard to choose a positive attitude in the face of difficult circumstances or hurtful relationships. But with God’s help, you can choose an attitude that reveals his presence and power in your life.
That’s what Paul and Silas did in Philippi. After offending some merchants, they were severely flogged and thrown into prison, with their feet fastened in stocks (Acts 16:23-24). Every freedom taken away … except the freedom to choose their attitude in the face of brutal persecution. What did they choose?
They chose to pray for God’s grace, which he poured out so lavishly that they overflowed with singing and praise, and a gospel sermon resulting in salvation for their jailer and his family (Acts 16:25-34).
You can draw on the same grace and choose a similar attitude today. If you dwell much on Jesus and his gospel, as Paul did, you can choose to be hopeful, thankful, cheerful, patient, encouraging and kind, no matter what your circumstances may be.
Doing so will impact every relationship in your life. It will impact how you view and engage God, how you view and engage yourself, how you view and engage the people around you (also known as “the SOG Plan).
Most importantly, choosing to remember your identity in Christ, even in the midst of challenging circumstances, will give rise to an attitude of faith and hope, which will in turn reveal the life-giving and life-changing presence of Jesus Christ in your life.
If you’d like to learn skills that will enable you to take your attitude captive to Christ even in the most difficult of circumstances, I encourage you to take advantage of our online course, Discovering Relational Wisdom 3.0. If you’d like to study these concepts with friends and help them to develop these skills as well, invite them to join you in a small group study using our DVD, flash drive or streaming version of this course.
– Ken Sande
Reflection questions:
- What enabled the apostle Paul to be content in every circumstance of life? (Phil. 4:11-13)
- What attitude does God call us to choose when we are experiencing hardship or injustice? (Psalm 37)
- How can an increased awareness of Jesus’ attitude impact our relationship with the people around us? (Phil. 2:1-11)
- Both the Psalms and personal experience show that life sometimes involves real pain, grieving, and sorrow. What do the Psalms teach us about honestly experiencing and expressing that suffering, while still maintaining an attitude of faith and hope? (Psalm 73; Psalm 102)
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© 2020 Ken Sande
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