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Resurrecting Dead Relationships

By |March 29th, 2015|

A young couple headed for divorce because of adultery came into my office one day. They picked the perfect week … the week before Easter.

To learn why this week has always been my favorite time to start divorce mediations […]

Have You Ever Been This Kind?

By |March 22nd, 2015|

When was the last time you did something that was so amazingly kind that others will remember your actions the rest of their lives?

If it’s been awhile, I encourage you to take two minutes to watch a video clip […]

Manipulative Double Messages

By |March 16th, 2015|

One of the most effective ways to undermine a relationship is to use double-messages to manipulate other people.

This all-too-common process was perfectly illustrated in a recent edition of Baby Blues, one of my favorite cartoon strips.

Wanda has clearly mastered […]

Redeeming Your Weaknesses

By |March 9th, 2015|

To find your greatest weakness, first identify your greatest strength and then look right behind it.

That’s one of the tragic results of sin: it twists our strengths into weaknesses, just as (-1) x 100 becomes -100.

Are you highly intelligent […]

G’Day Mate!

By |March 1st, 2015|

I had the privilege of spending the last week with some delightful brothers and sisters in Christ “Down Under.”

During my time in Australia, I spoke to the student body at Queensland Theological Seminary, taught for two days at the […]

RW in McFarland, U.S.A.

By |February 23rd, 2015|

If you’d like to see some vivid examples of relational wisdom, be sure to see Disney’s latest release, McFarland, U.S.A.

The movie is based on the true story of a 1987 cross country team from a predominantly Mexican-American high school […]

How Did You Experience Me?

By |February 13th, 2015|

One of the hardest and yet most profitable questions you can ever ask another person is …

“How did you experience me?”

In other words …

“Please tell me how I made you feel and what you were thinking about me during […]

The Three Faces of Fear

By |February 8th, 2015|

Fear usually triggers one of three reactions: control, anger or withdrawal (the latter two actually being forms of the first).

This is a key insight for improving both your self-awareness and your other-awareness: whenever you encounter control, anger, or withdrawal, […]

Embarrassing Sin, Comforting Forgiveness

By |January 30th, 2015|

I recently sent out an impulsive and sin-tainted email to a group of people whom I dearly love.

Two brothers quickly and gently confronted me. I then had the humbling experience of emailing a detailed confession to the same group […]

Four Elements of Effective Church Planning

By |January 22nd, 2015|

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Any time we make plans that impact a group of people—whether it’s our church, ministry, business or even our family—we have the opportunity to deepen and enrich our relationships, both with God and […]

Five Ways RW Benefits Church Planters

By |January 19th, 2015|

I had the privilege of spending the last three days with 200 men and women who are passionate about planting churches in southern California. We gathered at a leadership conference sponsored by Acts 29, a global network of church-planting […]

Turning Assault into Reconciliation

By |January 11th, 2015|

One of the most dramatic reconciliations I ever witnessed involved five brothers and a sister who were fighting over their parents’ estate. Their relationship had deteriorated so badly that one brother nearly assaulted his siblings with a baseball bat.

But […]

A Wise Son Makes a Glad Father

By |January 4th, 2015|

One of the many joys I had last year was seeing my 21-year-old son teaching relational wisdom to business managers and top high school students.
RW in the Workplace
In November, Jeff and I flew to California, where we had the […]

13 Dogs and 1 Cat

By |December 28th, 2014|

I recently found thirteen dogs and one cat who show us how to enjoy a peaceful holiday meal. In the process they demonstrate a central dynamic of relational wisdom (click here if video screen does not appear below).

There is […]

What Makes Powerful People Cry

By |December 21st, 2014|

I recently learned what makes some of the most powerful people in the world cry.

Dr. Michael Lindsay, President of Gordon College, has interviewed 550 of the most successful political, business, and nonprofit leaders in the United States. This group […]

We Need Your Help with Three Major Projects

By |December 14th, 2014|

Do you know what excites Corlette and me most about relational wisdom? Its potential for leading others to Christ.

Jesus taught that when our relationships reflect authentic love and unity, the world can see that He is real and that […]

Giving a Kidney Models RW

By |December 7th, 2014|

Before I became a lawyer, I worked as an engineer on a team that designed hemodialysis machines. While talking with patients going through dialysis, I learned how hard it is to live without a kidney.

Therefore, when I heard about […]

What You Can Do About Ferguson

By |December 1st, 2014|

A tender-hearted, 12-year-old boy has shown that God can use the tragic events in Ferguson, Missouri, to move people to a deeper level of understanding, compassion, and connection.

The boy, Devonte Hart, was holding a sign offering “Free Hugs” during […]

31 Ways to Enjoy Highly Relational Holidays

By |November 24th, 2014|

For most people, the holidays are like the French Revolution: they are either the best of times or the worst of times, a time of relational wisdom or a time of relational foolishness (to paraphrase Charles Dickens).

To help you […]

Getting Upstream of Conflict

By |November 16th, 2014|

When people learn about RW360, they often ask, “What’s the difference between relational wisdom and peacemaking, and why, after devoting thirty years to biblical conflict resolution, have you shifted your focus to this new concept?”

One of the best ways […]