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Never Give Up

By |November 29th, 2015|

One of the greatest heartbreaks a parent can experience is to be estranged from an adult child … which usually means losing contact with beloved grandchildren as well. That’s what happened to Karen when she offended her daughter, Debra, with [...]

33 Ways to Enjoy Highly Relational Holidays

By |November 22nd, 2015|

If you're like most people, the coming holiday season will be either the best time of the year or the worst time of the year ... and it will probably depend on the quality of your relationships. To help you [...]

If Your Enemy Is Hungry …

By |November 15th, 2015|

When I graduated from college, I was hired by a medical R&D company that was developing an advanced kidney dialysis machine. Within one year I was promoted to serve as the project manager. That’s when the trouble started … Within [...]

Papa, Clean Me!

By |November 8th, 2015|

When he was two-and-half-years-old, my grandson, Andrew, came across a fresh pile of dog poo in the yard. Having been told repeatedly to stay away from dog piles, he of course felt an irresistible desire to step on it and [...]

Falsely Accused

By |November 1st, 2015|

I often warn people that when they start studying relational wisdom, God is likely to give them homework. That’s what happened last week to a young woman I’ll call “Susan” (all names changed), who just shared this story with me. [...]

Bridge of Spies

By |October 25th, 2015|

Bridge of Spies is one of the most inspirational movies I’ve seen in years. It reminds me why I went to law school -- I had a love for justice, a respect for the biblical roots of the U.S. legal [...]

Are You Teachable?

By |October 18th, 2015|

I’ve been in the middle of hundreds of conflicts. Divorces, custody battles, business lawsuits, forced pastoral exits, church splits, nonprofit disintegrations … you name it, I’ve seen Christians fight over it. After many long and difficult mediations, I learned that [...]

The Two Treasures

By |October 11th, 2015|

My mother-in-law lived with our family for twenty years. For six of those years, my mother also lived with us. Corlette and I called them “the Two Treasures.” Lois (my mother) and Thelma In all the years they [...]

My Wife’s Punch List Was Driving Our Son Crazy

By |October 4th, 2015|

During the last months of my son’s senior year in high school, Jeff had a lot of conflict with his mother. As a result I was doing more mediation at home than I was through my conciliation ministry. Night after [...]

Magnificent Compassion at McDonalds

By |September 27th, 2015|

Last week a young McDonald's fast-food worker named Kenny provided a magnificent example of compassion. His selfless act was described by Destiny Carreno, whose report has been viewed over 2.3 million times on Facebook and other social media. Here is [...]

Lawyer vs Teacher

By |September 20th, 2015|

I'm not a fun person to argue with. When my pride kicks in, I find it all too easy to use my legal training to cross examine others and back them into a corner with leading questions. As you can [...]

Four Ways to Pursue God

By |September 14th, 2015|

I fell in love with Jesus during law school. It wasn’t because law school was so difficult; it was because Jesus is so wonderful. Thanks to my mother, I’d known about Jesus all my life. But I didn't really know [...]

The World’s Best GPS

By |September 7th, 2015|

How much do you trust God? Really? Do you trust him as much as a blind teenage racer trusts her seeing-eye dog? Sami Stoner lost her eyesight just as she entered the eighth grade. She had to face the fact [...]

Why Scare My Wife?

By |August 30th, 2015|

Corlette and I have very different depth perception. A car that I see as being a hundred feet away she sees as being a hundred inches away. So when I’d make a left turn with a car coming towards us [...]

Relationally Wise Pastoral Care

By |August 24th, 2015|

One of the greatest blessings of my recent time in South Africa was seeing how quickly people were applying relational wisdom to vital life issues, such as social injustice, racism, family disintegration, church leadership and evangelism. I was especially impressed [...]

RW in South Africa

By |August 16th, 2015|

I’m writing this post from Cape Town, South Africa, where I’ve been exploring ways to apply relational wisdom to some of the most challenging issues people can face. My first three days were spent teaching at a conference sponsored by [...]

Politics, Pride and Emotion

By |August 8th, 2015|

The first 2015 presidential debate highlighted the close connection between politics, pride and emotion. In an outward sense, each of the candidates was striving to build credibility, prestige and support by highlighting his or her abilities and connecting with the [...]

Five Ways to Weave RW into Your Life

By |August 2nd, 2015|

Last week I had the privilege of reading how one of our newest Approved Presenters has been applying relational wisdom with dozens of people, including his indecisive wife, a challenging grandson, two tense business partners, and long-term clients who had [...]

You Can Host an RW Seminar

By |July 27th, 2015|

Would you like to improve the relational dynamics in your church, ministry or business? If so, I encourage you to host a Discovering Relational Wisdom Seminar as soon as possible. As reported by former students, the benefits of this training [...]

A Better Way to Handle Abuse

By |July 20th, 2015|

Sexual abuse in the church does not have to end in broken lives, agonizing lawsuits, and divided congregations. When people follow God’s ways and words, these terrible incidents can result in healing, justice, and healthier churches. When victims of abuse [...]