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My Wife’s Punch List Was Driving Our Son Crazy

By |October 4th, 2015|

During the last months of my son’s senior year in high school, Jeff had a lot of conflict with his mother. As a result I was doing more mediation at home than I was through my conciliation ministry.

Night after night […]

Magnificent Compassion at McDonalds

By |September 27th, 2015|

Last week a young McDonald’s fast-food worker named Kenny provided a magnificent example of compassion.

His selfless act was described by Destiny Carreno, whose report has been viewed over 2.3 million times on Facebook and other social media. Here is what […]

Lawyer vs Teacher

By |September 20th, 2015|

I’m not a fun person to argue with. When my pride kicks in, I find it all too easy to use my legal training to cross examine others and back them into a corner with leading questions.

As you can imagine, […]

Four Ways to Pursue God

By |September 14th, 2015|

I fell in love with Jesus during law school.

It wasn’t because law school was so difficult; it was because Jesus is so wonderful.

Thanks to my mother, I’d known about Jesus all my life. But I didn’t really know Jesus. Therefore, […]

The World’s Best GPS

By |September 7th, 2015|

How much do you trust God? Really?

Do you trust him as much as a blind teenage racer trusts her seeing-eye dog?

Sami Stoner lost her eyesight just as she entered the eighth grade. She had to face the fact that she […]

Why Scare My Wife?

By |August 30th, 2015|

Corlette and I have very different depth perception. A car that I see as being a hundred feet away she sees as being a hundred inches away.

So when I’d make a left turn with a car coming towards us in […]

Relationally Wise Pastoral Care

By |August 24th, 2015|

One of the greatest blessings of my recent time in South Africa was seeing how quickly people were applying relational wisdom to vital life issues, such as social injustice, racism, family disintegration, church leadership and evangelism.

I was especially impressed by […]

RW in South Africa

By |August 16th, 2015|

I’m writing this post from Cape Town, South Africa, where I’ve been exploring ways to apply relational wisdom to some of the most challenging issues people can face.

My first three days were spent teaching at a conference sponsored by Advocates […]

Politics, Pride and Emotion

By |August 8th, 2015|

Last week’s presidential debates highlighted the close connection between politics, pride and emotion.

In an outward sense, each of the candidates was striving to build credibility, prestige and support by highlighting his or her abilities and connecting with the values and […]

Five Ways to Weave RW into Your Life

By |August 2nd, 2015|

Last week I had the privilege of reading how one of our newest Approved Presenters has been applying relational wisdom with dozens of people, including his indecisive wife, a challenging grandson, two tense business partners, and long-term clients who had […]

You Can Host an RW Seminar

By |July 27th, 2015|

Would you like to improve the relational dynamics in your church, ministry or business? If so, I encourage you to host a Discovering Relational Wisdom Seminar as soon as possible.

As reported by former students, the benefits of this training include […]

A Better Way to Handle Abuse

By |July 20th, 2015|

Sexual abuse in the church does not have to end in broken lives, agonizing lawsuits, and divided congregations. When people follow God’s ways and words, these terrible incidents can result in healing, justice, and healthier churches.

When victims of abuse first […]

Getting Wind Under Your Wings

By |July 12th, 2015|

After four weeks of nonstop travel last month, I was running out of energy.

As a result I was unusually apathetic as I walked into the conference center for one of my recent presentations. Not a good attitude for teaching relational […]

Forgive Like Edison, or Better Yet, Jesus

By |July 5th, 2015|

Thomas Edison never claimed to be a Christian, but he did a better job of demonstrating forgiveness than many believers do.

When Edison and his staff were developing the incandescent light bulb, it took twenty-four hours to manufacture a single bulb. […]

Celebrating 30 Years Together

By |June 27th, 2015|

Corlette and I are in Jackson, Wyoming, today celebrating 30 years of marriage. We took this “selfie” at the end of a hike around Jenny Lake, one of the most beautiful places in Teton National Park … almost as beautiful […]

Inside Out

By |June 22nd, 2015|

Do you sometimes find it difficult to understand your emotions … much less those of your teenager, spouse, coworkers or friends? Well, Disney and Pixar have just given you a vehicle to explore this issue at a whole new level.

Their […]

I Believe in You!

By |June 14th, 2015|

My heart is glad every time I receive an email or phone call from my dear friend, Mart Green.

It’s partly because he’s always praising God for how he’s moving in Mart’s family, church, business, or the ministries he loves to […]

Blending Hard Skills and Soft Skills in Europe

By |June 8th, 2015|

Paul is the pastor of a church and a professor at a seminary in Central Europe … yet he is struggling to forgive a former elder who turned on him three years ago (all names are changed).

Anna works with refugee […]

Battleground Europe

By |June 1st, 2015|

I’m sending this post from Wisla, Poland, where Chip Zimmer and I are teaching at the European Leadership Forum.

ELF has gathered 700 evangelical leaders from around Europe to provide them with a week of fellowship, encouragement, and training to inspire […]

Two Stubborn Scientists

By |May 25th, 2015|

I love it when ordinary Christians use simple biblical principles to solve relational problems that have stumped corporate presidents and highly trained professionals.

That’s exactly what a woman named Diane did when two coworkers were about to lose their jobs. Here […]