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Anything That Humbles Me Is Good for Me

By |August 21st, 2016|

Last week I had the privilege of hiking in the Montana wilderness with Rankin Wilbourne, a dear friend and pastor from southern California. As we shared about the challenges, blessings and setbacks we’ve both experienced in our personal lives and ministries, [...]

Three Ways to Multiply Kindness

By |August 14th, 2016|

This true story from an airline pilot about a fallen soldier’s journey home illustrates a fundamental fact about human nature: since we are all made in the image of God, we are designed to be kind to one another. Here [...]

Public Confession Is Counterintuitive

By |August 7th, 2016|

Whenever we’ve done something wrong, our natural instinct is to conceal, deny or minimize our guilt. This dynamic began with Adam and Eve and is painfully evident in the current race for the White House. Sadly, it is also displayed [...]

A Biker with Amazing Relational Skills

By |July 31st, 2016|

Mom’s Night Out (not to be confused with Bad Moms) provides some superb examples of relational wisdom … especially by a big, tattooed biker. The movie involves three mothers who decide they need a night away from their kids. In [...]

A New Generation of RW Training

By |July 18th, 2016|

By God’s grace, a new generation of training in relational wisdom launched this morning. This interactive online course addresses the theology, benefits, and practical applications of relational wisdom. Using a cutting-edge learning management system, it is available for individual or [...]

Six Days to Launch

By |July 11th, 2016|

With just six days to go before we launch our new online course, Discovering Relational Wisdom 2.0, God gave us a special gift this week. Feedback from two people who have been using our beta version confirmed that we’ve succeeded [...]

Pastors’ Wives Can Burn Out Too

By |June 19th, 2016|

I received a lot of positive feedback on last week's post about a pastor who admitted his need for physical rest, spiritual renewal and relational retooling. One of the most insightful responses came from a different pastor's wife, who described how [...]

Do You Know a Bruised Reed?

By |June 12th, 2016|

It takes a great deal of humility, wisdom and courage for a popular pastor to admit that he is a “bruised reed” in desperate need of physical rest, spiritual renewal and relational retooling. That’s exactly what my friend Rankin Wilbourne [...]

The Wounds of a Friend

By |June 5th, 2016|

Most of us are blind to our own poor relational skills. As a result, we often fail to see how our behavior impacts the people around us and undermines our witness for Christ. One of the best ways to counteract [...]

Wisdom Can Prevent Fraud

By |May 30th, 2016|

One of the many interesting groups I engaged during the recent European Leadership Forum was the Leaders of Christian Organizations Network. This network is comprised of executive leaders from many of the most respected Christian organizations in Europe. Prior to [...]

Bringing RW to the Church in Europe

By |May 22nd, 2016|

Corlette and I are having an exciting time in Poland interacting with 720 church and ministry leaders from 45 European countries. They’ve gathered together for the European Leadership Forum (ELF) for a week of training, fellowship and planning on how to [...]

Headed to Europe

By |May 15th, 2016|

Lord willing, Corlette and I will be flying to Wisla, Poland, this week to participate for a second time in the European Leadership Form. This conference gathers 700 evangelical leaders from around Europe to provide fellowship, encouragement and training to inspire and [...]

The Three P’s of Satisfaction

By |May 10th, 2016|

It’s not often that an attorney loses a lawsuit, along with her two million dollar contingency fee, and yet walks away satisfied. I’ve seen similar satisfaction with employees who didn’t get a promotion. With church members who disagreed with their [...]

Gospel Centered Relationships

By |April 24th, 2016|

Corlette and I spent the last four days in Seattle teaching relational wisdom and peacemaking at Highlands Community Church. One of the high points of the weekend was delivering a sermon on Gospel Centered Relationships. This is one of my [...]

CCEF: Emotions-Engaging the Expressions of Our Hearts

By |April 17th, 2016|

This October I will have the privilege of presenting a Discovering Relational Wisdom Seminar at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundations’ 2016 National Conference. The theme of the event is “Emotions: Engaging the Expressions of Our Heart.” I have the [...]

Reputation vs Character

By |April 10th, 2016|

Jeff’s reputation was being trashed by people in his own church. He was respected throughout the city for his outstanding Sunday school classes, which had drawn hundreds of people to his church. But then he got caught in the middle [...]

Blind Optimism Can Be Dangerous

By |April 3rd, 2016|

Churches and ministries (as well as married couples) could learn a vital lesson from the U.S. State Department. Chip Zimmer, our ministry’s Vice President, worked for the State Department from 1990-2001, serving in diplomatic posts in Africa and Latin America. [...]

Gracious Eyes

By |March 27th, 2016|

Years ago I completed a particularly sad divorce mediation. The husband had tried for years to meet his wife’s expectations, but she was adept at finding fault with everything he did. Shortly after our final meeting, I read an article [...]

Good Cop, Great Cop

By |March 20th, 2016|

Deputy Matt Holman saved the life of a homeless man staggering toward destruction. His name was Robert Morris. He’d lost his family, become an addict, and was living in a tent in the woods … until it was washed away [...]

Three Pennies a Week

By |March 13th, 2016|

Every relationship has a limited amount of social capital. Among other things, this means that you need to exercise wisdom in how often you initiate uncomfortable conversations with those around you, whether in your family, church or workplace. Think of [...]

Springing from Adversity to Worship

By |March 7th, 2016|

Adversity tends to pull us down. It hurts when others sin against us, take us for granted, fail to stand up for us, or break their commitments to us. Such treatment can easily cause us to feel discouraged, bitter or depressed. [...]

Shooting My Car

By |February 29th, 2016|

I almost shot my car after one of our Montana blizzards. A foot of wet snow had fallen in just a few hours and the roads were impossible. I’d been out earlier in the day in my son’s Honda, and [...]

Asking Parents to Give Up Their Keys

By |February 21st, 2016|

One of the hardest things I’ve ever done was to ask my mother and my mother-in-law to give up their car keys. Doing it with each of them on the same day (since they both lived with us) was especially [...]

How to Test a Confession

By |February 15th, 2016|

There is a simple way to test the sincerity of a confession … whether yours or someone else’s. How detailed is your plan for repentance? “For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret (turning from sin, growing [...]

Habit Change Is a Team Project

By |February 8th, 2016|

Habits exert enormous influence in our lives. For better or worse, they guide most of our daily activities, guiding us automatically through routine behaviors (like brushing our teeth), which frees our minds to focus on issues that require deliberate thinking [...]

Immersed in Technology

By |February 4th, 2016|

As you may have noticed, I missed last week’s blog post … the first one in 160 weeks! Why? Because I’ve been immersed in all of the new electronic equipment and software that we’re bringing online in order to produce [...]

Idolatrous Habits

By |January 20th, 2016|

Many of our habits are spiritually neutral, such as the way we brush our teeth or the route we drive to work. Other life patterns clearly violate spiritual values, such as being addicted to drugs, alcohol or pornography, or reacting [...]

Conquering M&M’s (and Premature Advice)

By |January 11th, 2016|

My wife seemed to be testing my resolve. A month ago I decided that it was time to do battle with my love for candy. That meant not slipping into the pantry two or three times a day to raid [...]

Seven Principles of Habit Change

By |January 4th, 2016|

I was sitting on the patio of an expensive restaurant in Beirut. Six young Lebanese were sitting at the table next to us, glued to their smart phones. Not a word of conversation between them for minutes on end, a [...]

Do You Want to Change Your Habits?

By |December 28th, 2015|

A five year-old child was sitting alone in a room with a marshmallow placed a few inches in front of her. She was told that she could eat it immediately, but if she waited just fifteen minutes, she would be [...]

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