RW Blog

Getting Upstream of Conflict

By |November 16th, 2014|

When people learn about RW360, they often ask, “What’s the difference between relational wisdom and peacemaking, and why, after devoting thirty years to biblical conflict resolution, have you shifted your focus to this new concept?”

One of the best ways […]

Blending Hard Skills and Soft Skills at BSF

By |November 11th, 2014|

Last week Corlette and I had the privilege of spending three days teaching relational wisdom to some of the most committed and effective Bible teachers in the world.

Bible Study Fellowship’s global network of classes reaches over 300,000 people every […]

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late

By |November 3rd, 2014|

“You warned me. You warned me. And I didn’t listen. Now it’s too late. She’s dead and I’ll never be able to say I’m sorry.”

The woman was sobbing so hard on the other end of the telephone line that […]

The Three P’s of Satisfaction

By |October 26th, 2014|

It’s not often that an attorney loses a lawsuit, along with her two million dollar contingency fee, and yet walks away satisfied.

I’ve seen similar satisfaction with employees who didn’t get a promotion. With church members who disagreed with their […]

1,000 Acts of Kindness

By |October 19th, 2014|

Would you like to change the world around you? Then make it a habit to do three acts of kindness every day.

Do it consistently for a year, and you’ll bless those around you with 1,000 acts of kindness.

Since kindness […]

Befuddled Lawyers and Sensible Christians

By |October 11th, 2014|

It’s not often that a prime time television show with nine million viewers makes Christians look sensible by contrasting them with befuddled lawyers, but that’s exactly what last week’s episode of The Good Wife did.

Even though I had […]

Leadership Transitions: The Good, the Bad and the Clumsy

By |October 4th, 2014|

I’ve seen a lot of leadership transitions over the past thirty years.

Like the characters in an old Clint Eastwood western, they generally fell into one of three categories: The Good, the Bad, and the Clumsy (which often turned ugly).
Bad […]

A Two Week Sprint

By |September 28th, 2014|

I love to run. Primarily because it takes me away from electronic distractions and gives me time alone with God.

Running also triggers the release of endorphins in my body. They often combine with the joy of worship to produce […]

A Common Lust

By |September 21st, 2014|

I share a lust with St. Augustine. Although he was a pillar of the church, he regularly prayed,
“O Lord, deliver me from this lust of always vindicating myself.”
We inherited this lust from our original parents, who invented the art […]

Don’t Slap Mom

By |September 14th, 2014|

Many adult children are slapping their elderly parents these days. Not with their hands; with their words.

When mom asks a question the first time, they may respond graciously.

But when she asks the same question again and again, they often […]

Preparing for the End

By |September 8th, 2014|

Every relationship ends in pain.

Whether it’s with a pet, a friend, or a family member.

If the relationship was wonderful, we feel a great loss. If it was terrible, we’re filled with regret.

There is no way to eliminate this pain […]

Relationships Thrive on EGGs

By |September 1st, 2014|

One of the best ways to improve your relationships is to develop the habit of drawing attention to EGGs.

Not the ones you cook, but the innumerable Evidences of God’s Grace that he lavishes on you and those around you […]

A Sickness Not Unto Death

By |August 23rd, 2014|

As many of you know, I was diagnosed with cancer in June and had my thyroid surgically removed. Two weeks ago I swallowed a tablet of radioactive iodine to kill any remaining thyroid cells.

Late last week I had a […]

Save 40% and then Smile

By |August 17th, 2014|

There are three things I’d like to do to put a smile on your face this week.

First, I’d like to offer you a 40% discount on our online seminar, Discovering Relational Wisdom.

The concepts presented in this seminar have been […]

Two Things You’re Not Designed For

By |August 10th, 2014|

There are two things you and I were never designed to experience: death and rejection.

That is why they both feel so foreign and hurt so much: they are utterly contrary to what we were made for.

When God created the […]

Always Bring the Gospel

By |August 3rd, 2014|

I’m ashamed to admit that I find it easier to bring the law to other people than I do the gospel.

By “law” I mean all the “thou shalt” passages. You know, the ones we use to tell other people […]

Peacemaking and The Good Wife

By |July 27th, 2014|

Nine million people will soon be introduced to biblical peacemaking through an hour-long television show called The Good Wife.

The Good Wife is a prime time CBS legal and political drama. Its central character is a woman named Alicia Florrick […]

Cancer Is All About Relationship

By |July 20th, 2014|

I recently learned that I have stage IV cancer.

A month ago a surgeon removed my thyroid and over forty lymph nodes. Radiation treatment should begin in a few days. Then a week of isolation until the radioactive iodine leaves […]

Where Sorrow Begins

By |July 13th, 2014|

C. H. Spurgeon wrote, “Where self begins, sorrow begins.”

That’s a diagnosis that explains most of my unhappy moments.

Angry? Usually because I am not getting what I want.

Resentful? Someone didn’t treat me the way I think they should.

Self-pity? People just […]

Raising Empathetic Children

By |July 6th, 2014|

My daughter was sitting on the floor in my study crying softly. Megan had been sharing a sad story with me, and her emotions overflowed in tears.

Her two-year-old son, Andrew, was playing in his room nearby. When he heard […]