By God’s grace, most conflicts between Christians can be revolved personally and privately. To assist in this effort, God has provided a great deal of guidance in the Bible on how individual Christians can resolve their differences and restore their relationships (see, e.g., Matt. 5:9; 5:23-24; 18:15; Rom. 12:18; Gal. 6:1; Col. 3:12-15). The following resources are provided to equip you to live out these principles in your life. Please review them carefully before completing the request for assistance form:
- Biblical Peacemaking provides a summary of key peacemaking principles, including: how to identify the underlying causes of conflict, when and how to confess, confront and forgive wrongs, and how to negotiate reasonable agreements.
- These blog posts provide real life examples of how people have used biblical peacemaking to resolve marital, family, business, abuse and church disputes, as well as a $200M lawsuit!
- Guiding People Through Conflict is a 70-page ebooklet that explains how Christians can resolve their differences through personal peacemaking, conflict coaching and biblically grounded mediation.
- For a detailed explanation of biblical peacemaking, see The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (available at the RW360 Bookstore), which has sold over 500,000 copies in seventeen languages.
- If you would like to make every effort to resolve a conflict on your own, we encourage you to go through our foundational course, Discovering Relational Wisdom 3.0, which can help you to enhance key relational and peacemaking skills.
If you are a party to a conflict and need advice on how to apply these peacemaking principles, we encourage you to share the resources mentioned above with your pastor or a spiritually mature friend and seek their advice on how to apply them in your situation. If you need additional advice from a trained conciliator, however, please read the information below and then complete the form provided at the bottom of this page.
When you complete the form below, your request will be forwarded to our conciliation department or to our primary conciliation partner, Crossroads Resolution Group, LLC, for a response. If we believe we can be of assistance to you, we will typically email you to arrange an initial telephone interview with a conciliator, for which there is no charge. Continued assistance beyond that interview may require payment of an hourly fee, which will be discussed with you before proceeding.
Note: we are currently unable to offer conciliation advice or assistance to individuals outside the United States, but you may still find the principles provided in the booklet list below to be of value.
Our advice and assistance is provided subject to these terms:
- The advice will be provided by a conciliator who has training and experience in applying the principles set forth in Guiding People Through Conflict and the Handbook for Christian Conciliation.
- The first hour of advice is provided for free; after that the conciliator may require hourly compensation.
- The conciliator will provide general information on biblical conflict resolution, also known as “Christian conciliation,” and will not provide legal or other professional advice. If legal counsel or other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought.
- By submitting this form, you agree to treat all dealings with RW360 and the conciliator in regard to this dispute as settlement negotiations, which means they will be inadmissible in a court of law or for legal discovery. Furthermore, you agree that you will not try to force any conciliator to divulge any information acquired during a consultation or to testify in any legal proceeding related to this dispute.
- If the conflict you are addressing involves any kind of abuse that is covered by the laws of your state, you agree to take responsibility for carrying out all required reporting to appropriate civil officials.
- Prior to your initial interview, you may be requested to sign and return a copy this type of Interview Agreement to protect the confidentiality of your conversation.
- If you are dissatisfied with the assistance or advice you receive from a conciliator listed in RW360’s Directory, you may provide constructive feedback by using this Conciliation Assistance Report or file a grievance using RW360’s Conciliator Grievance Policy. Links to both of these forms are available within the conciliator’s record in RW360’s Directory.